In the Coaching Manual on page 6 are Requirements of a Spiritual Life Coach. The first point in that article is “Practice what you preach.” One of the sub-points says, “You do not have to be perfect in order to be a Spiritual Life Coach: however, you should be growing. A leader is going somewhere.” You do not have to be perfect! Some people do not coach or they struggle with coaching others because they know of personal weaknesses. Let me make something very clear: We all have weaknesses! Christ has come that we can gain the victory by growing in grace. The issue is not am I perfect; it is, am I growing, am I making good progress? Listen to these verses:
- 1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.
- 1 Peter 5:8-9 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. (9) Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world.
- Acts 14:22 strengthening the souls of the disciples, exhorting them to continue in the faith, and saying, "We must through many tribulations enter the kingdom of God."
We all struggle! Yet it is through these struggles that we become stronger. We learn to lean into Christ and gain the victory. The more we do this the better we become at helping others.
- 2 Peter 3:18 but grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ……..
- Hebrews 4:15-16 For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. (16) Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
Christ knows and understands! He is most available to help us gain the victory. We can and will overcome.
- 2 Corinthians 2:14 Now thanks be to God who always leads us in triumph in Christ, and through us diffuses the fragrance of His knowledge in every place.
The Pillar of Responsibility implies you are in charge of you. Here are some pointers to help you coach yourself:
1. Admit we all struggle. This is not an excuse to continue in our sin or to continue struggling; it is the first step to overcoming the problem or destructive pattern in our life.
2. Bring it to the light. Face your fears. Are you fearful someone will know you have a weakness? We all have them. Fear will rob you of your peace. If we do not face our fear, it will conquer us. Put your fear into the light by asking someone to help you overcome. When you bring it to the light, darkness has to flee.
- John 1:5 And the light shines in the darkness, and the darkness did not comprehend it.
3. Get outside help. This is very important. If you need help in overcoming a weakness, get an accountability partner. Get outside yourself. Ask another coach or friend whom you trust to help you walk through your struggle. Let someone coach you through this.
4. Lose the performance mentality. Read the article entitled Grace: God’s Non-Performance Clause. “Obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” Allow Christ to live His life through you. Stop performing and start enjoying God.
5. Enjoy God. Self-condemnation will rob you of your joy. God wants to help us overcome. He knows we need His help. He is not ashamed of us; He is here to help us. We are His children, and children need their Father. God is not mad at you.
6. Live stress free. The Kingdom of God is righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit (Romans 14:17). If we condemn ourselves, we stress ourselves. Give your struggle to God and let Him walk you into victory. Trust Him; trust His love. Trust Him to show you someone to help you.
- Isaiah 26:3 You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You.
7. The Big Rocks and a Large Rock. We coach people in the importance of giving the Five Big Rocks priority in life. They are most important. However, if we have a weakness that really troubles us, it has become a Large Rock. Therefore, just like our Five Big Rocks, we need to schedule time to overcome it. Schedule and assign a time to deal with this Large Rock. Prioritize it and get some help in order to gain the victory.
In conclusion: How are you leading yourself? How are you managing you? The primary person you have to lead is you. We need God’s help to do this. Opening yourself to outside help is one of the quickest roads to victory. Think about this: You are coaching someone because they are opening themselves to you. You are helping them. Now, “Practice what you preach.” Do likewise when you struggle. Have wisdom – make good decisions.